Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Being married is hard work...

For all those married or unmarried bloggers out there. Marriage is hard work. It is hard work if you want to have something special and good. Lately I have been put to the test with my husband's new part time gig. It takes some of the time we used to spend bonding away. This leaves me feeling like I have to pounce on him when I do get time, or leaves me feeling lonely.

The first month he started his new gig I found blogging. I blogged and sacrificed the general household duties, which he wasn't able to do. The second month as the household duties and fresh meals began to take their effect and slide, I stopped blogging as much and began to maintain the household while getting attention hungry and angry at my sacrifice.

This month is back in balance. This month I am realizing balance is work. I am trying to spend time that is quality and do a better job listening and doing the things to make both of us happy.

It took a lot of thinking and some fighting to get the balance back.

Thankfully I feel the scale is equal now. Marriage is hard work.

9 comments:

*~Dani~* said...

Marriage is definitely hard work...but worth it!

Nicole said...

Yes it does take some work. Sounds like you are trying your best though! The weekend is coming up....hopefully you two will be able to spend some QT together!

~Mrs. Guru~ said...

I totally agree! We have been married only 7 months but woo, it has been hard learning to balance everything!!

Kitty Cat said...

I have only been married 6 months and I agree totally! It's a lot more work than you think. And I don't care what anyone says, but things do change when you get married. Good luck and here's to the balance staying!

Being Brazen said...

I think any good relationship requires effort and hard work over time if its going to stay happy and siccessful.

Glad you have found a good balance.

Sweet Simplicity said...

Marriage is hard work, but completely worth it!

Monogramchick said...

Balance is totally key and it is amazing how without working at it and being conscience of it all the time the balance can get out of whack. Glad y'all have found your center again!

Lauryn said...

It's great that you've found the balance. I know how difficult it can be to feel like you're maintaining your own happiness, your personal relationships, and all of your responsibilities... and I'm sure when you're married it's even more challenging!

Kristen said...

Totally agress, marriage is hard work, but it's totally worth it! Your experience sounds similar to mine..my husband has a car hobby that took him away alot during the first year of our marriage and it was tough!
Prayer, an attitude change and tons of effort made such a difference for me :)